Friday’s Inspiration

Wendy’s son, Michael had an inspiring quote to share today.  Our actions, behaviors, awareness, teachings, are all ripples in the pond that create movements and shifts. Here’s to the wisdom of an eleven year old….

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Have an inspiring quote from your child to share?  We would love to hear it!

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With Appreciation,

Christina and Wendy

I Am….

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How do you help develop your inner coach, that inner voice that is helping you in a positive way?  It’s important to compliment yourself daily.  Tell yourself what you have done well for the day.   Do you help your child recognize what he or she did well in their day too?  Taking a few minutes each day with your child to ask him/her what they did well with will help build that positive inner coach of recognizing their strengths and efforts.  Making a shift in their thinking to see the beauty within themselves.

With Appreciation,

Christina and Wendy

Thank You to All Of Our Veterans

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We would like to share our appreciation to all military members and their families. We know it is through your sacrifice and dedication that our country is safe for our families. 

With Appreciation,

Wendy and Christina

Teaching Our Children to Be Includers

We have all read the beautiful story about a middle school child who walks into the lunchroom to sit by another student who is alone.  Maybe the child sitting alone has a disability, maybe not.  Maybe that child has unique quirks that are difficult to understand.  Maybe that child has a difficult home life or is battling an inner war we know nothing about.  Maybe not.  Maybe that child is just in need of a friend.

We grow up in categories and are lumped into groups….regular education, special education, speech delay, gifted and talented.  These groups stick with children for most of their school life. During a time of trying to figure out who they are, they are given titles to identify themselves. They look around for peers with a similar title and try to fit in.

We are firm believers that all children have gifts. There are children who can walk into a room and make everyone feel happy and wanted. Others can make a seed sprout into a plant with just dirt and water. While there are other children who understand math quickly or are talented in music. With the proper guidance, each of these kids will grow into happy, healthy adults. We must teach our children how to accept each other. The math whiz can be great friends with the farmer. Or they can decide not to be friends, but still recognize the importance of the other’s gift. No matter the gifts your child has, we need to model for and teach to our children how to accept each other for exactly who they are. We need to teach our children that their gifts are special and unique to them, but it does not take away from someone else’s gift. We are showing our children that there is enough for all of us; enough love, kindness, and happiness. Once we know this and teach it to our children they will begin to embrace who they are without labels. Some of these children will cross the barrier and sit with the kid who is sitting alone. These kids will continue to inspire all of us to be more compassionate.

 

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With Appreciation,

Christina and Wendy

Upcoming Holiday Session

We will be opening registration for our next social skills groups next week! This next session will be slightly different.  We will continue to have separate small groups, however, the focus of this session will be to begin teaching an understanding of social expectations around the holiday seasons as well as tools for coping with stress.  There will be more specific details about the sessions with the registration post.

The dates for the next session will be: November 13th, November 20th, December 4th, and December 11th.  There will be three groups meeting at a time: A sibling group  (optional), a parent group (required), and a group for your child learning specific social skills.  

Be sure to check our website next Monday with details about the classes and information on how to register.

With Appreciation,

Christina and Wendy

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Connections With Students

We feel that, as educators, once you take the time to make those honest connections with your students (whether they have exceptional needs or not),  your classroom will run smoother.  Teaching from your heart, truly seeing the kids individually–what are their worries, fears, wishes, dreams, struggles–is a bridge that connects the desire  for students to learn.  When your students know that you care for them and love them, we have seen children blossom, difficult behaviors grow soft (and even disappear), and classroom communities become more supportive and accepting of each other.

With Appreciation,

Christina and Wendy

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Please Don’t Say “It Will Be Okay”

We’re both special educators.  We’ve both worked in a variety of environments and in different roles with children with various disabilities.  We have collaborated and continue to collaborate with other professionals.  We get it.  We understand the paperwork, the state requirements, the long days.  However, we also are both moms to children with disabilities.  We continuously sit on both sides of the table.  We have sat and heard information about our children that hurts our heart.  We see where they’ve been excluded in a game or a social activity at school because of their differences. To their teachers, we promise to try to support you.  As moms with a background of knowledge, we do have times where we  feel frustration with the system, frustration of missed deadlines or IEPs not completely being followed.

With all of this being said, we would like to go back to one point in particular. As a teacher, please don’t say “it will be okay.” Those words stir up my insides. When I come to you to tell you about my child with a disability, please don’t tell me you’ve worked with “kids like him before”. You may have worked with a child with ADHD, Asperger Syndrome, or another disability like my child’s, but you have not yet worked with MY child. He is unique and his triggers are different from the last child with whom you worked.   As parents, we often collaborate with other professionals to help our family and our children.  When we offer to share that information with you, it’s inviting you into our inner circle.  Please take our extended hand instead of saying you already know about this diagnosis and “it will be okay.”  We are asking for you to join us in collaborating for the highest benefit of our child. As parents, we will do our best to speak respectfully to you and help understand your views and perspective.  We ask for the same courtesy back. Parents know their children best.  We can share what our child’s fears are, what his/her dreams are, and what makes him/her happy and sad. Those things are unique to each child and go beyond a diagnosis.

We agree there are some generalizations we can make based on a specific diagnosis. Our children, however, are still unique. It is so important in our children’s lives that the adults   get to know them, just like you do with other children.  Taking the time to make those individual connections with our children will help with understanding what they need to be taught.  Often times, our children need to be taught skills that other children pick up naturally in their development.  Getting to know them personally and collaborating with parents and other professionals helps you stretch and grow as an educator and in return will help our children do the same.

Yes, we too believe that it can “be okay”. We also recognize that for this to even be a possibility, we ALL need to work together and do our best to hear the words that each of us has to offer. This is the reason why we created this company. Let us help by being the bridge that spans the gap. The only way that it can actually “be okay” is if we all learn how to work together for a common interest: the success of our children.

With Appreciation,

Christina and Wendy

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Registering for Upcoming Social Class

For some students, obtaining and utilizing good social skills do not come naturally.  They move through their environment having a difficult time communicating and understanding more than just direct language-based interactions.  For example, good social skills include sharing space with others and learning to regulate one’s own behavior to other people’s thoughts or expectations as well as using your whole body to understand what people are “saying” around you.  For some students, these skills need to be taught.

Following the Social Thinking model, we will be teaching a 6-week session on helping your child begin learning these skills.  In turn, you will learn how to shift your thoughts and vocabulary while helping your child at home.

Your child does not need a diagnosis to attend.  However,this class is designed for students with Aspergers, ADD, ADHD, or any child needing to learn how to “think” about thinking as well as understand more about the complex social world in which we live.  While times of movement will be available, students must be able to sit in a room with a small group for one hour.

This class will meet for a six-week period beginning on Sunday, October 2nd.  There will be three separate groups.  The Kindergarten-2nd grade group will meet from 2:00-3:00 p.m., the 3rd-5th grade group will meet from 3:30-4:30 and  the 6th-8th grade group will meet from  5:00-6:00 p.m.  Group sizes will be kept small with no more than eight to ten children in each group.  This six-week session will be held at 8401 Medical Plaza Drive, Suite 120, Charlotte, NC 28262.

The total cost for the six-week session plus materials is $200.00.  To keep names and information confidential, if you would like to register for this class, please fill out the attached document and e-mail it to us. If you are unable to open the document, please send us a note and we’ll be happy to e-mail you another one.  Within this week, we will then send you a pay PayPal link to your e-mail to complete your registration for the class.   Once you receive your PayPal link, please complete your nonrefundable payment within 48 hours to reserve your and your child’s spot in the class.  Once the class is full, your name will go on a waiting list and we will contact you if an availability opens.

Please fill out the attached document and e-mail it to us at confidentsolutions7@gmail.com  with your interest in registration for the class…social skills referral medical history-2

If you are interested in the class but have questions before deciding if this class is a good fit for your child, please reach out to us at confidentsolutions7@gmail.com.  We would be happy to answer your questions!

Upcoming News….

We are planning on having another, shorter session around the holidays (November through early December) to help assist students learn social behaviors and skills to utilize during these times.  This class will also have a parent participation group as well as a student group.  You do not need to attend this first session to attend the later session in November.  Please enter your e-mail in “follow our blog” on the home page to receive the latest information! We will send out information about that shorter session towards the end of October.

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With Appreciation,

Christina and Wendy

 

Happy Friday!

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Happy Friday everyone! For those who are also in the Charlotte area, we hope that you are staying dry today. 🙂

We plan on opening up the registration for the upcoming social classes this Monday.  Details will be in the official registration post.  There will be three separate groups: a K-2 group, a 3-5 group, and a 6th-8th group.  We are VERY excited about these classes!  The classes will run for a  6-week session starting in October for one hour.  Parents, please plan on staying each week too.   As your child is in his/her group, the parents will be meeting separately in their own group.

We wish everyone a wonderful weekend!

With Appreciation,

Christina and Wendy

Appreciation

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Appreciating the unique needs of our children is important. We use the word “our” because it does take a team to help a child.  As teachers, find that connection with your child that has unique needs in your class.  When you recognize his/her gifts, we promise your heart will fill with gratitude.  All children have gifts and strengths.  When we take the time to notice those gifts in detail, we appreciate what they have to offer to us as educators and parents.

With Appreciation,

Christina and Wendy