Typically, we learn social skills in an intuitive way around 3 to 4 years old. When these skills are not learned naturally, it’s important to teach them cognitively in a nonjudgmental way. What does “listen” actually mean? What are the expectations of “listen”? We are excited to help your child learn new skills and tools that he/she can use at home and at school. We look forward to seeing you in a few weeks! E-mail us with any questions. We love connecting with you! firstname.lastname@example.org You can also find useful information under our Upcoming Events tab on our home page.
Registration for School Age Social Skills Classes August 20th-October 1st
Middle School OTB Group-Fall Semester
Differences Between Social Skills Group and Middle School Group
Who Benefits From Social Skills Classes?
Wendy and Christina
We get a lot of calls asking who can be held accountable for parts of the IEP or 504. After asking a few questions, we realize parents are typically talking about the modifications/accommodations on their child’s IEP or 504. We have seen that a lot of IEPs or 504s have very vague descriptions written of these. A good modification/accommodation will answer these questions “who” will do “what”, “when”, “where” and “how”. For example, an accommodation of “modified assignments” would be written something like this: ” the regular education teacher will provide (student’s name) with a math assignment with 20% of the math problems. These math problems will determine understanding of the math concept taught. The number of the math problems that (student’s name) should complete will be circled. The regular education teacher will ensure that Student understands which problems to complete.”
Another example is “modified seating” or “preferential seating”. This accommodation is on many IEPs. An example of a good accommodation would be “the regular education teacher will provide (student’s name) with a seat close to the front of the class during instruction so teacher can check for understanding”. Or instead of “check for understanding” it could be “to help student maintain attention/focus”. This could also be changed from “close to the front of the class” to “an area with minimal distractions”. Each accommodation on your child’s IEP should be specific to your child. There should be an adult responsible for providing this accommodation or modification. When we sit as advocates we commonly see that schools want to make the child the “who” in these accommodations. For example, if the child is allowed to have frequent breaks during assignments, we are seeing “student will request a break when he is feeling overwhelmed”. If this is an accommodation that is allowed, then the “who” needs to be an adult helping to facilitate these. If this is something the child is working to learn, then this needs to be a self-advocacy goal. A better way to write this accommodation would be “the teacher will allow (student’s name) to have a break when he is overwhelmed. Signs that “student” is overwhelmed include flapping, spinning, talking louder. If “student” does not initiate a break, the regular education teacher should discreetly ask/determine if “student” should have a break. “student” can be overwhelmed during assemblies, before a test, or when there is a change in his schedule.”
Take a look at your child’s IEP or 504 to see how his or her modifications/accommodations are stated. They should be clearly written with answering all of the who,what, when, where, and how questions. If you have missing pieces, we recommend asking for a meeting before school starts to clarify them. This will help set your child up for success this coming school year.
We also offer a paperwork review in which we read through your paperwork thoroughly, and will write specific notes for you to ask your school to clarify. We are always happy to answer any questions you have over the phone or through e-mail as well. We have free IEP classes to empower you in how to better understand your child’s paperwork. Please enter your e-mail on the home page to receive the latest updates!
Wendy and Christina
There are a couple of important tips to help have effective meetings with your child’s school. First, communicate. E-mail and discuss your concerns and your questions with your child’s regular education and special education teachers. Hear what they have to say and ask for clarification on any points that you are unsure about. Always document your conversations in a notebook with whom you communicated with and what the answers were. If you have an e-mail, you can easily print the e-mail and put it in your notebook. When meeting, make sure you are aware of what the agenda is and ask questions beforehand if you are unsure.
During meetings, practice active listening. Hear what teachers, administrators, and other professionals have to say. Write it down. You can repeat it back for full understanding by stating, “What I heard you say was….” Practice asking Who, What, When, Why, and Where questions. If you are uncertain, ask, “Can you explain?” Write it down, repeat it back to make sure you fully understand what they are saying. Some points of clarification may be important to add to the DEC5 at the end of the meeting The Importance of a DEC5 and Who Is On Your Child’s Team?
Christina and Wendy
Child Find is a legal requirement that schools “find” children (ages birth through 21) with disabilities who may need special education services. If the school knows or suspects a child has a disability then, according to the law, it must agree to evaluations. Here are some excellent resources detailing Child Find:
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